We all have high hopes in relationships. We want to find someone who wants to commit themselves to us; someone who misses us as much as we miss them. Is this a tall order? Not necessarily. But for some guys, it absolutely is. Forget the expectations you set for relationships (even if those expectations are pretty much grounded in reality) and forget your high hopes. If his heart isn't in it, then any prospect of a relationship may be dead on arrival. It may hurt to hear, but he may not want anything more than some late night nookie. Keep reading to find out reasons he's never going to commit and only wants sex.
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The moment's not right. He's too focused on himself at the moment. Maybe he'll grow out of it, but for now he's stuck needing to be more selfish than romantic. Don't take it personally, though. He's just doing his own thing on his own path, and eventually it'll pass.
He's kind of over romance. He's gone through enough relationships in the not too distant past that have given it a bad taste. As charming as he seems, he really only wants fun right now. Everyone has their boiling point, and he may have reached his already.

He just prefers ghosting. Some people enjoy dating, and some people may like the rush of "hitting it and quitting it," regardless of how shallow you think that sounds. Everyone's different, and though your hopes may have been high, he just may be worse than you originally imagined.

He's lacking confidence. Though he may have everything that you are looking for in a guy, he may not see it.
Insecurity. It isn't exactly uncommon, but it's sometimes difficult to notice in people you're attracted to. You can't imagine why they'd be that, but there's a chance he is.

He doesn't believe in relationships. Some people plan on going through life perpetually single. They don't see the point in acting otherwise. Romance is still possible without becoming too attached to someone, and that's what he believes.

He's afraid a relationship will ruin what the two of you have. Don't paint men in a light that makes them all insensitive. If you've actually spent time with a man, you'll realize that that's far from the truth. He may enjoy your guys' time together so much that he's afraid anything more may mess it up.
He's benching you. We're all familiar with testing the waters when it comes to dating. We've all been in a situation where we are considering two people for a date or for sex, etc. That's just how humans are. But you may be that to him. He may be waiting on someone else before settling on you.

You're his mistress. Some men cheat. It's nasty business, but it's reality. If he's not committing himself to you, but is more than happy to indulge in all the sex you're willing to give him, there's a chance that he's already got someone waiting for him back home. You may just be his side girl.

He's still reeling off an ex. When you've had your heart broken and you're missing someone, it can mess with your head.
He doesn't feel financially prepared for a relationship. Relationships are expensive. Between dates and gifts and other miscellaneous expenses, dating may just not fit in with his budget at the moment. Don't take it too personally.

He just can't commit. Some men view committing to someone as locking themselves down to someone, and that might scare him. He's much more comfortable in the lifestyle he's got at the moment, and he doesn't see the reason to make any adjustments.

He doesn't want to feel pressured into anything. Labeling something just to label it doesn't sit well with him. He'd rather just enjoy what is happening without feeling like he has to hit certain checkpoints and meet certain quotas. There shouldn't be rules for when he dates, in his opinion.
He's more horny than in love. There's nothing wrong with wanting sex. As long as it's consensual, maybe friends with benefits will work out better between the two of you. In time, maybe that'll change. But for now, sex is where it's at, and sex is where it's staying.
He's not that into you. Just because you're hooking up with someone doesn't necessarily mean that they positively need you in their life. He's just having fun. You're just having fun. But if you feel like you're more emotionally invested than he is, bring it up. Communicate. Otherwise, you're only going to get hurt.
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