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”Everyone is against me.” There are some people who believe that whenever someone doesn’t thank them for the things they do, that everyone is out to get them. Guys notice when a woman has that attitude and run screaming away from it. This is something you may not even realize you're doing, but definitely something to watch out for in the future.
”I hate drama, but it always seems to find me.” Women who find themselves constantly at the center of drama are probably involved in the drama in some way. Many women who’ve said that they hate drama often love drama and might even create mountains out of molehills to keep life interesting. Not every woman who has drama follow her around is this way, but enough are to the point that guys watch out for this. To be fair, many women who say this are often at the center of very dramatic groups of people, and they might not see how toxic those people are, but that’s not everyone.
”I’m not like other girls.” Women who love setting themselves apart from the rest of their gender in this way tend to be crazy. This isn’t a woman setting themselves apart as great, this is a woman going out of their way to say that the rest of their gender sucks. Girls that are “other” don’t actually exist, guys.
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.” I’m pretty sure Marilyn Monroe didn’t actually say this one. This sentiment seems pretty nice, but it’s been co-opted by crazy girls using it to excuse treating people horribly and then shaming them when they have enough of it. Many guys have found themselves the victim of that kind of behavior, so sometimes someone even saying it is enough for them to cut and run.
“I’m only friends with guys, girls are just too crazy.” I was guilty of this when I was in high school, which makes sense because, you know, high school. If you’re a woman saying this in their 20s and 30s, there could very well be a problem. This could be an indicator that women are put off by you, and guys know that thanks to dealing with their own female friends warding off women who say things like this.
Constantly changing friendship groups can be an indicator of craziness. To expand upon the previous point, constantly changing groups of friends (we’re talking around every six months or so) can be an indicator of crazy girl behavior. It implies that you’re a person who starts problems, burns bridges, then starts the cycle over again.
Lots of crazy exes makes people wonder about the common denominator. Looking back at all of your exes over the years, was every single one of them crazy? If your answer is yes, you might need to do some thinking. The only common denominator in all those relationships is you, so you might have been the crazy one. Sometimes crazy things happen and one girl finds herself with a ton of legitimate crazy people, but it happens less often than you think.
If she’s flaky, watch out. Women who are constantly flaking out on plans and not showing an ounce of stability are not often women who guys invest a lot of time in. If someone isn’t showing that they’re important, they’re not going to waste time carving out a place in their life.
”If she plays the victim constantly, too well, she isn't the victim.” That was said by Reddit user Keep-reefer-illegal, and he’s not wrong. The majority of people who imply that they’re the constant victim of the world and everyone is out to get them are the people who are often the driving force behind a lot of their problems.
”I want to be treated like a princess.” Guys tend to run very far away from women who need to be taken care of for everything. They want a woman who can be a formidable human being in their own right and not need them for everything. Nobody wants to date someone they have to treat like a kid.
”A real man would…” This is one of those things that guys hate in particular, just because it often shows the woman’s hypocrisy. If you wouldn’t say “a real woman,” you shouldn’t say “a real man.” Real men are just men, and they can do anything they want without being made to feel bad for it.
”If you loved me you’d do (insert thing here).” This shows that the woman saying this is willing to stoop low enough to call a guy’s love into question just to get something they want. Relationships shouldn’t be a test, and they shouldn’t be emotional blackmail, which is what this is.
Codependency is a major red flag, regardless of gender. This isn’t about physical and practical dependency, this is about emotional dependency. If a guy finds that the woman they’re seeing is ramping up the commitment level after only a couple of dates, or their entire lives seem to be about them, they run like the wind. You wouldn’t want a guy whose whole life was about you, so you shouldn’t do that yourself.
”Crying feminism when it benefits them, crying misogyny when it doesn’t.” In the world of gender, there are a ton of double standards. Women who try exploiting those double standards to get the things they want under the guise of feminism, but who are suddenly citing misogyny when something doesn’t go their way don’t go unnoticed by guys. Men can be just as feminist as women, but if the woman they’re dealing with can’t understand that men are affected by issues of gender, even if it’s not as severe, they’re going to realize that that’s a woman who doesn’t understand nuance.
Women who automatically label someone creepy. Sometimes creepy is the best word you can use to describe someone. However, other times calling someone creepy for doing something you’d be okay with someone else doing isn’t fair. The word creepy can also be really loaded because it’s very hard to counter that without “proving” their point. Ladies, let’s reserve the word creepy for actually creepy things and stop taking the meaning out of the word.
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