When Your Dry Spell Becomes Your Drybernation

We can't rely on sex.  Sometimes, it can be a fleeting mystery.  We love it, therefore when it's gone, it hits us with substantial weight.  But when you can't lock it down, don't let it get to you.  There is always hope.  Keep reading to find out what happens when your dry spell becomes your drybernation.

This is not the end. Don't beat yourself up. Lack of sex happens to the best of us. Just channel your pent up sexual energy into something useful. The world isn't over just because your sexual life feels like it is. Life goes on. Breathe.

Work that profile. You have no excuses as to why your OkCupid profile isn't the epitome of perfection. You clearly have the time. Make that sh*t shine. By the time you reach the point of your drybernation where you can't possible foresee a light at the end of the tunnel, you can rely on your dating profile to shine the way.

Perfect your imperfections. Master a craft. If you're sexless and unskilled in something unique, you automatically downgraded to a pariah of society. You can be celibate. Just be really talented at something. You'll start to see things working in your favor in no time.

You're better than this. Stop treating sex like it's the end all, be all. It's sex. You're just tangling your naked body up with another naked body and dipping your genitals into each other. Doesn't sound so freaking amazing anymore now, does it? Take a chill pill and get on with your life. You can do this.

Be more open. Maybe you've hit such a roadblock with your sex life because you're too picky. Have you ever considered that possibility? Sexual exploration is vital, and it may be just what you need to shake things up and get you rocking bodies with someone you never expected.

Fight the frustration. You're going to feel like pulling your hair out. The short response? Don't. Get a grip on yourself and channel that energy elsewhere. With all of that irritation flowing through your veins, it's a surprise you haven't literally exploded. Not sexually. Just, like, your body. It's a surprise you haven't gone full body grenade.

Get up. If you want to make something happen, do something about it. You can sit and whine about how rough your life is, but nothing's going to change until you change. Everything's going to pass you by (and everyone else is going to get laid) if you don't put your best foot forward.

Reach out to friends and family. You need to widen your focus. Life is short. If you spend most of it freaking out over sex, you're going to miss out on all of the other good things. Yes, there are people in your life even when you're sexually frustrated. Let them take your mind off your current situation.

Remember the good old days. There was a time, even during your pubescent spike, when you weren't sexually active. Hell, you might've even still been a virgin. What were you doing then? How did you get by? Try to channel your inner youth and get through this dryness by following your past experience.

Evaluate yourself. You want sex. Sure you do. Everyone wants sex. But what makes you think other people want sex with you? What are you putting on the table? The longer you waste away in that dry spell, the higher your chances are of ignoring the aspects of yourself that were considered respectable. Don't let those die — otherwise, your sex life as you know it will die with it.

The perks. You're going to be a hell of a masturbator. While it may not seem like that's saying much, it actually is. Learning to truly give yourself pleasure is the best first step in making you an amazing sexual partner. When you know what you want, you know how to tell people what you want.

Meditate. God, everything's the end of the world with you, isn't it? Stop treating your life like it's so unbelievably fragile and put sex on the back burner. Look inward. Relax. Meditate. Practice yoga. Try to get a better understanding on the fact that deep focus will put you at peace when things aren't necessarily going your way.

Do you. Try to enjoy the alone time. People sometimes give company too much credit. Alone time is sometimes the best time, and you should know. When you're alone, you can get away with murder. OK, not really. Don't try to get away with murder. But in all honesty, you can be you. Explore you.

Date! There's a number one cause for dry spells, and it stems from not doing anything. So do something. If you can't find a date in this day and age, you are way overthinking the dating game. Maybe you've had some rough ones in the past, but you can't hold that against the entire male or female population. Next time, swipe right.