These Sexual Insecurities Are More Common Than You Think

Sexual insecurities. Let’s face it: We have them. Contrary to popular, all men don’t feel like sex gods, nor do all women feel like queens in the bedroom. From the size of his package to what she looks like from up top, there are a slew of self-doubts both men and women face behind closed doors. Perhaps you even have some of your own you’d like to share? But first: Read below as we highlight 15 very real — and honest — confessions from Redditors revealing their biggest sexual insecurity. Trust us: You’re not alone.

Sexual insecurities. "I take an age to orgasm,” one user confessed. "I've only ever had one from someone else. So I get embarrassed and tell my partners 'It's fine' and we move on to sex because it's taking too long. I get so paranoid they'll get bored or annoyed at me. But it's not fine, I have needs and I'm terrified I'll never find someone patient who can help me relax and get over this.”

Sexual insecurities. Another woman agreed. "I always feel like I don't even want them to go down on me because it always takes forever,” she said. "I usually just make them stop just for their sake. I always feel like I'm being a nuisance tiring their arms and hands out so bad. I don't get it because I can usually get myself off in less than 10 minutes.”

Sexual insecurities. "The size of my penis when it's flaccid,” one user who has since deleted his account revealed. If it’s any consolation, a lot of women prefer growers!

Sexual insecurities. User “VoexMeretricis” said her sexual insecurity is that she’s too horny: “I could have sex every day, happily, forever. I'm definitely not one of those people who sex drive decreases eventually in a relationship - it actually increases the more I know and trust someone, since the sex inevitably gets better. My SO is out of the honeymoon fuck-like-crazy stage and I'm just getting warmed up. And no matter how intellectually sex-positive and empowered I am, I just can't help feeling kinda bad/slutty about desperately wanting sex when we just had sex an hour ago and he wants to relax.”

Sexual insecurities. "I relate entirely too well,” another user shared. "Being too horny, too wet, wanting sex too often and close together. It’s a struggle when I've always thought that would be every guy's dream...and in fact, it’s not.”

Sexual insecurities. "I can also relate to you,” user “midway_steezin” added. "I am a guy and I have a very high sex drive. I have been with my SO for four years and we are also past the honeymoon stage. I love her very much but I am afraid she thinks I only want her for sex sometimes. I really hope my sex drive fizzles out and slows but it has yet to.”

Sexual insecurities. User “07SS” said: "My performance and size (mostly since I know that my girlfriend is used to hung guys). I can't last long for the life of me and my size is simply average, I can tell I don't rock my girl's world, or even come close to it. Talk about emasculating…”

Sexual insecurities. "My biggest sexual insecurity is having to pretend she enjoys it because I was taught that girls don't like sex and no matter what a girl says or does now I feel like she could be faking it,” one user dished.

Sexual insecurities. A user who goes by the name “laidback_hoser” said: "Had really bad 'roids during pregnancy and now my butthole just doesn't look the same… “ Another mom weighed in, adding, "My butthole is a source of insecurity for me as well. I feel your pain girl.”

Sexual insecurities. "I don't like how I look when I'm on top,” user “bradfordtb1015” said. "I also don't get any pleasure while on top. Its frustrating…”

Sexual insecurities."I've always had a hard time on top, too,” one woman lamented. "I think that this has always been my #1 insecurity with sex. It doesn't seem to help that I'm a big woman, with some fat thighs and positioning myself on top is awkward. They always seem to slip out no matter what and I spend more time positioning myself and reinserting than actually having sex in this position.”

Sexual insecurities.One user said: “Biggest insecurity for me is constantly reading and hearing women say how they want to be dominated in bed, f*cked rough, manhandled on the bed, etc. 99 out of 100 days I'm not into that at all. It feels like a performance pressure."

Sexual insecurities. This woman shared her many insecurities, writing: "My body is like, 60% stretch marks - I have large and rather saggy boobs -I'm a squirter and I feel bad after making a huge wet mess.” Girl, don’t fret — there are plenty of people out there who will still find you immensely sexy!

Sexual insecurities. "How hard and how much I c*m,” one user confessed. "I am always worried it will intimidate or gross girls out, and I'm also worried I might hit them in the eye if I do (mainly because of how hard I actually ejaculate) so I usually don't deal with that. Either c*m in the condom or in a shirt or towel."

Sexual insecurities."My boobs flattening out when I'm on my back,” one user shared. "Also feeling like I look silly in the moment. All I want to do is relax and let my boobs do what they will, let my eyes roll back, and drool all over myself because it feels so goddamn good, but I am so scared that I'd look... retarded (for lack of a better word)."