Female Sexual Dysfunction, And How It’s Wreaking Havoc On Your Sex Life

At some point or another, most women have been in that awkward situation where the man they’re getting intimate with is having a hard time, well, getting hard. There’s not much you can do at that point, and the reason for it happening in the first place can vary. Male impotence is pretty widely discussed because of the fact that there’s no hiding it. However, a lot of people don’t know that women can also experience this in their own way. It’s called female sexual dysfunction, and the only reason we don’t talk about it is because most women either don’t know they have it, or they’re too afraid to talk about it. But it’s time to start talking about it now, so that you can regain control of your sex life.

Dysfunction. According to Mayo Clinic, female sexual dysfunction can be characterized as a woman having low sexual desire, a hard time orgasming, or enduring any pain during sexual intercourse. Sometimes these symptoms are manageable, but other times they can interfere with your life.

Poll. According to Pop Sugar, 49 percent of women reported having a hard time getting aroused before sex in a poll based on 2,501 women between the ages of 21-49. Shockingly, only four percent of those women did something about it and sought help.

Not getting help. As mentioned before, a lot of women are embarrassed to talk openly about their problems and because of this, they don’t get help. This goes on to affect other aspects of their lives, yet they have no idea how much damage not getting help could do to your life.

Myth. “One myth that I think women believe that really strikes me as really dangerous to a lot of partnerships is — some of research I did — was when women have a bad sex life they tend to say 'my relationship is OK, it's just my sex life.' But when men have a bad sex life, they say the relationship is bad, too,” says relationship expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz, as reported by Pop Sugar.

Relationship. This isn’t to say that your entire relationship should revolve around sex, and every situation is different. However, there’s no denying that sex is a huge part of the relationship for a lot of people.

Connection. ”That connection that you have when you have an orgasm, the connection that you have when you're wanted and you want someone. This is a whole-body response. It's not like our sexuality is walled off in a box and has no connection to our overall health. It's part of the functioning of our body. Trust me your sex life is important to your physical and emotional health,” says Dr. Schwartz, as reported by Pop Sugar.

Stigma. It’s time to take away the stigma of talking about sex, especially for women. While men are much more open when it comes to their sex lives, women are sometimes shamed for being too public about their lives behind closed door. This is something that has been passed down from generation to generation, but its not too late for the perspective to be changed.

Attitudes. “Attitudes regarding sex, sexuality and gender vary greatly between different cultures and religions. Certain sexual practices, traditions and taboos are passed down through generations, leaving little to the cause of female pleasure or imagination,” Dr. Sherry Ross tells the Independent UK.

Getting worse. Dr. Ross is among the people trying to change the conversation. Women need to know that not talking about sexual dysfunction will only make things worse. The problems don’t just go away on their own and in fact, only get worse over time.

Aging. “Unfortunately, sexual problems worsen with age, peaking in women 45 to 64.  For many of these women the problems of sexual dysfunction are treatable, which is why it is so important for women to share their feelings and concerns with a health care provider,” says Dr. Ross, as reported by the Independent UK.

Problems. Believe it or not, there are some women out there that have never had an orgasm, all because they don’t know they have a problem or refuse to get help for their sexual dysfunction. Others simply live with the pain and never get the opportunity to enjoy sex. Naturally, this leads to other problems.

Not too late. However, it’s never to late to get help, and to learn how to orgasm and enjoy sex without any pain or discomfort. According to Dr. Ross, it’s important for women to learn what they like and what they don’t like. This can be done by spending some one on one time with yourself.

Skill. “Women must first understand what brings them pleasure and in their pursuit of happiness they have to understand where their clitoris is and how to stimulate it. Masturbation is a skill.  It has to be learned, just as walking, running, singing and brushing your teeth,” says Dr. Ross, as reported by the Independent UK.

Get help! At the end of the day, it’s your body. You shouldn’t feel ashamed to talk about it, no matter what you’ve been conditioned to say or do. If you’re having a problem or are in any kind of pain, don’t be afraid to speak up!

You. Have you or anyone you know ever experience this type of pain? What did you do about it? Did you get help? Share your experiences with us!