How To Get Over Your Fear Of Oral Sex And Get An Amazing Body Image

Giving oral sex can be scary, but if you’re a certain type of person, receiving oral sex is a whole new level of frightening. There’s a level of vulnerability there that can be really disconcerting, especially if you’re about to receive it from someone new. On top of that, you might be feeling some type of way about your body in general and you might not be so keen on letting a person anywhere near it in such an intimate way. All of those fears and concerns are understandable, and it’s something lots of people have dealt with from the beginning of time.While all of your fears are valid, there’s something about receiving oral sex that helps raise your body image. Sure, there’s no reason why another person should affect how we feel about our bodies, but in this case, another person can go a really long way towards making you feel great about your body. There are very few confidence boosters quite like having a person you like go down on you and enjoy it. There are a lot of reasons to want to shy away from receiving oral sex, but here are some reasons why you should dive in.

You’re never really going to be prepared for it. Honestly, receiving oral sex is kind of like getting pregnant. You’re not going to be all the way ready for it. The best thing you can do for yourself is get out of your own way and at least give it a try.

You might feel self conscious about how your vagina smells or tastes. You’re not alone in that fear. Lots of women have felt insecure about the taste or smell of their vagina. In all honestly, no vagina smells like nothing, and if you’re dealing with someone who thinks every vagina should smell like sunflowers and freshly baked cookies, you might have some bigger issues on your hands.

However, if you’re feeling really self-conscious about it, go wash up really quick. Anyone who’s trying to go down on you will understand that you’d want to wash up before letting them go down on you. They’d probably actually appreciate that you took the effort to do that. To check, all you have to do is swipe a finger or two down there and smell it. Unless you have an infection, you probably smell fine.

Don’t worry about shaving. Sometimes we go through life thinking we’re all alone in dealing with unwanted body hair, but we’re definitely not. Our sexual partners deserve some credit here, because if they’re the right people for you, they’re not going to care about that.

Guys get nervous about receiving oral sex, too. While their insecurities are coming from a different place than a woman’s, there are times where a man will be nervous about receiving oral sex because of the intimacy involved, or they’re afraid of hurting the person given them oral sex, or they’re scared they’ll get bit somewhere they don’t want to be. Nervousness at the prospect of receiving oral sex is a thing regardless of gender.

Guys also get nervous about giving oral sex. This is why communication is so important. When you talk about what your hangups about it are, you can figure out just what the problem is. That way you guys get through the problems together, and when the oral sex actually does happen, it’ll be that much more fun and uninhibited.

If a guy is all about receiving oral for himself but doesn’t want to return the favor, it’s probably not worth it. It’s not about the actual act at that point, it’s about the fact that there’s no reciprocation there, especially if he’s made it a point to say that he’s never going to reciprocate and isn’t willing to try.

One man’s “I don’t like the taste” is another man’s gourmet meal. Sure, rejection sucks, especially when it’s about something as intimate as receiving oral. However, take heart, everyone has different taste buds, and somewhere out there, there’s a person that will hold the taste of your vagina above all of his favorite food. It sounds weird to say, but it’s the truth.

Sometimes the insecurity comes from dealing with someone who just flat-out refused to return the favor. It really sucks when your first sexual partner just isn’t about going down on you. It’s not like we’re going to know any better when it comes to sex, so a lot of women spend time thinking that their vaginas are totally inedible and gross, which can give a girl some crazy hangups about it.

However, that’s even more of a reason to open up to it when you’re with someone who’s enthusiastic about it. Seriously, when you’re dealing with someone who’s offering to go down on you and is doing it because they genuinely like it and want to see what you’re missing, you’ve got to be open to it. Life is a series of experiences, and this one is among the most pleasurable.

Your vagina doesn’t look weird. Vaginas are like snowflakes, or flowers. No two are exactly alike. There’s no reason to be ashamed of what yours looks like, and there’s definitely no reason to let that fear take over your entire body image.

Don’t worry so much about getting off. If you’re worried about your performance, you’re actually going to inhibit your orgasm. Have you ever noticed that your best orgasms come from those times where you’re totally not nervous about it? Even science backs me up here. Focus on breathing and being in the moment, and it’ll all come together.

The vagina is not inherently gross. If you’re worried that your vagina is gross, you might have some deeper issues that need talking out beyond the fear of receiving oral sex. Vaginas aren’t gross or nasty in any way, and anyone who told you otherwise was basically blowing smoke up your vagina. Honestly, a lot of that is perpetuated by the media to sell douches and other vaginal cleaning products, which are actually very, very bad for your vagina, so don’t use those.

One way to feel great about your body is to masturbate. This sounds a little strange, but getting to know your body goes a long way towards making you feel good about your body. You can even take this a step further by getting yourself a hand mirror and taking the time to look around.

Lastly, if you’re uncomfortable, you don’t have to do it! Sure, it’s fun, but you won’t have fun if you feel forced into it. Take the time to get to know your body and talk to your partner, so you can be in a state of mind where you can really enjoy what you’re doing. The best thing you can do for yourself is relax, trust your partner, and clear your mind.