Turn On The Lights. If you are having sex with someone, it’s clear that they find you attractive. They want to see you naked. Turning on the lights may be awkward if you’re body shy, but let’s just be honest. Once you see your partner sprawled out on your bed, it’s hard not to want to switch on the lights every time.
Get A Little Rough. If you ask most people, they’ll tell you that they like rough sex at least once in a while. The key thing here is to know how rough is too rough, and to stop just short of that. As long as it’s just a little bit of rough grabbing and maybe a passionate kiss, chances are that you won’t hear any complaints from your partner. But definitely ask before you ever try doing anything more than they're comfortable with.
Ask Your Partner To Do Something. Sex just isn’t fun without actually getting what you want. If your partner hasn’t quite hit that spot just right, a little bit of gentle guidance will help both of you have a great time together. Our only caveat is to be nice about it, and to respect their limits, too.
Dressing Up. It’s really amazing at what a costume can do to your sex life. A good costume can help you transport yourself into another mindset, make your partner drool over, you, and even help you act out a hidden fantasy. Go ahead and dress up once in a while. It will definitely add a spark to your love life.
Tell Your Partner To Stop. Even if you may feel awkward doing it, it’s perfectly acceptable to tell your partner to stop if you feel uncomfortable with something he’s doing. Whether it’s a form of foreplay that you just can’t get into or actual sex that you don’t want doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you know that you always have the right to give and take away consent. Also, you should never feel like you have to endure something if it isn't doing it for you! Never forget that.
Getting Emotional. Sex is an emotional act by nature. This means that you may end up processing things in a surprisingly emotional way. If you find yourself feeling like you may need to cry, or give your partner an extra squeeze, do it. Just make sure that you talk about your feelings with your partner so that they don’t get too worried.
Kiss After Oral. A study has shown that 44% of men and 67% of women love kissing after both giving and receiving oral sex. In other words, most people won’t mind it. If they do mind it, then that says a lot more about their personal hangups than it does about you. Don’t sweat the prudes - have some fun!
Having Super Romantic Sex. Though the adult film industry may suggest otherwise, there are a lot of people who fantasize about super romantic sex. It’s perfectly normal to do so - and it’s also totally cool if that’s what you’re into doing in the bedroom. There’s nothing wrong about asking for sex to be a little more intimate than usual with a sex partner.
Moan. Believe it or not, it’s surprisingly common for people to feel like they shouldn’t moan during sex. Moaning and all those other noises are how your partner can tell if you’re having a good time with them. That being said, if you feel like moaning, by all means do. No one will make fun of you for enjoying sex.
Experiment With Your Partner. Vanilla sex, much like vanilla ice cream, is pretty good. It’s a reliable pleaser. But, it’s totally normal to get tired of it. If you’re feeling like your sex life has become a rut, it’s time to broach the subject of experimenting with your partner. Most people are open to a little kink, so don’t ever feel afraid about talking things out. Make a party of it if you need to, but let's just be real - great sex often involves crazy stuff!
Actually Enjoy Sex. It’s 2016, and yet, so many people out there still seem to think that sex shouldn’t be enjoyable. There’s nothing wrong with loving sex. It’s a natural act. It doesn’t make you weird to like it, no matter what that preacher who taught at Sunday school may say. You’re an adult, and you’re not doing anything wrong. Have fun, already. You’re not robots, are you?
Switch Positions. Who said that sex needs to start and finish in the same position? Switching positions often helps prolong sex and also can help you see your partner in a bunch of different angles. When in doubt, switch it up or ask your partner if they like to switch it up.
Talking Dirty. Even if it sounds clunky, most people really appreciate it when their partner tries to turn them on using words. There’s a reason why even the hokiest of phrases end up in romance novels and erotic literature. Making an attempt at dirty talk, even if it’s kinda silly, will be appreciated by your lover. Or, at the very least, you both can laugh about it afterwards.
Ask Your Partner What They Want To Do. Look, we all need a little bit of guidance when it comes to pleasing your partner. Asking your partner what turns them on, what they like to feel, or how to be a better lover is never a bad idea. After all, no one is a mind reader. By asking, you get the real answer, straight from the horse’s mouth.
Get Messy. Some people tend to think that being neat and tidy is a muss during sex, but great sex is often anything but. Great sex often involves squirting, semen, and the occasional drops of saliva on your pillows. All that mess is like leftover pasta sauce after a good spaghetti dinner - it’s a sign that you had fun, and it’s relatively easy to clean up.
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