I Got My Period The First Time I Had Oral

Oral sex is a pleasurable experience for both men and women, and some even prefer it to penetration. But not everyone's experience is the same, and for one woman, her first oral sex experience was so traumatic that was unable to enjoy oral sex for years after. You see, this young woman happened to get her period while experiencing oral for the first time. Read on to find out how Nicole Zub was able to move on from it and learn to enjoy oral sex again, via xo Jane.

Period. Nicole Zub writes via xo Jane about how the first time she had oral sex, she was on her period, but despite that, her boyfriend insisted on going down on her.

Experience. Zub was a late bloomer and at 16, had never been kissed. She didn’t know what to expect when it came to sex, but trusted that her more experienced, older boyfriend would lead her in the right direction.

Patient. "I patiently awaited the day when my first boyfriend would come into my life, ready to put my single days behind me,” writes Zub, via xo Jane.

Rumors. Finally, Zub’s chance to have a boyfriend came when she heard rumors that an older boy was into her. Feeling determined to get her first kiss, Zub approached him and struck up conversation.

Romantic. "I can't even remember where we had our first real kiss. It certainly wasn't as romantic as I imagined it to be. I just felt immensely grateful that a boy had given me the time of day, let alone an older, more experienced boy,” writes Zub.

Curious. Like most teenage boys, Zub’s new boyfriend, Ben, was sexually curious and had a high sex drive. He was constantly watching adult films and asking Zub to try out new things with him.

Normal. "One time, he asked me to perform a foot job, a scene from one of the videos he had recently come across. I knew this wasn’t exactly the 'normal' sexual activity any of my friends were doing, but I loved him and I figured that was what he wanted,” writes Zub.

Period. Then, one day while the pair were home alone, Ben sprung it on Zub that he wanted to go down on her. While Zub may have been just as curious as Ben, she told him she was on her period and didn’t think it’d be the best idea.

Expectations. However, Ben persisted and after thinking about it, Zub decided to go alone with it. She removed her tampon in the bathroom and came back into the room, unsure of what to expect.

Discomfort. "There was nothing enjoyable about it. I lay there still as possible, waiting desperately for it to be over,” writes Zub.

Body. But things didn’t end well after that. Ben left after a few minutes and told Zub he was disgusted. Zub was crushed and from then on, felt uncomfortable about her body even years after her relationship with Ben was over.

Consequences. "The next person I dated after him didn't even come close to performing oral sex on me. I wouldn't let him near it. Subsequent relationships suffered the same consequences, and when I finally did let it happen again, an orgasm was the furthest thing from my mind,” writes Zub.

Therapy. Eventually, Zub came to terms with the fact that her first bad experience with oral sex hadn’t been her fault. Zub was able to get therapy and eventually found the right guy that she felt sexually comfortable with.

Powerful. "When I eventually learned to relax, I was startled by how beautiful and powerful my vagina truly is, even during my period,” writes Zub, via xo Jane.

Breakthrough. Finally, after years of struggling, Zub was able to enjoy all types of sex again, without feeling ashamed or uncomfortable.

You’re Turning Him Off During Oral Sex And You Didn’t Even Know It

Oral sex is, in all honesty, a minefield. There's so many different things that can go wrong, and it's actually quite difficult to know what the right thing to do for him is at any given time. How do I get am off quicker? Am I applying enough pressure? Or too much.. perhaps? Am I slobbering all over him? It'll do your head in thinking about all the things you should or shouldn't be doing when you're engaging in oral sex. That's why we're here to make the process a lot easier for you. Here is pretty much everything you need to stop doing when going down on him.

Gag. Being able to fit his entire penis inside of your mouth — no matter what his size — you should pat yourself on the back for it, for sure. But gagging isn’t necessary, especially if it makes you uncomfortable.

Look Ma, no hands. Your hands are your partners in crime when it comes to oral. Why would you get to work without them? Trust your hands and your mouth — collaboration! Teamwork!

Too much eye contact. If you’re staring at hime the entire time, that might be a bit.. too.. weird. You can look down at his penis, look him in the eyes, you can close your eyes, you can do whatever you like!

Hole. Don’t go exploring unknown territory, aka his anus, if you haven’t chec

Acting disgusted. If there is something wrong whether it be the smell, the taste — communicate! Before you’ve got him orgasming in your mouth with a disgusted look on your face, communicate! Let him know what you’re thinking.

End of the day? This is about you and your partner. About what you two think is the right thing to do. About what works for the two of you. So mess around, try things out, explore!

You. What do you all think? What are some of your absolute pet peeves when it comes to oral? Too much teeth? Too much slobber? Let us know in the comments section below.

Things You’re Forgetting About When Performing Oral

Going down on someone and having someone go down on  is nothing short of fantastic. It's sexy. It's intimate. But just because you're a fan of the act doesn't mean you're necessarily good at it. We all tend to pat ourselves on the shoulder for accomplishments that are hardly accomplishments, and when it comes to performing oral, it's really no different. But the truth is, there's a good chance you're overlooking some important steps that ought to be taken while giving head. Keep reading to find out about the things you're forgetting about when performing oral.

Going down. When you’re going down on someone, it doesn’t hurt to know what you’re doing. Do you want to be know for how good you give head? Not necessarily. But covering your bases in all walks of life is always helpful.

Hands. A person’s genitals aren’t the only sensitive part on their bodies. Just because your mouth is busy doesn’t mean your hands can’t go off exploring. Touch. Feel around. Use your fingers and make your partner tingle. It’ll make the experience that much more satisfying.

Frenulum fun. If you’re going to blow a guy, it won’t hurt knowing a bit about the anatomy of his penis. One such place you should look out for his frenulum. It’s that part just below the head of his penis on the underside of his shaft. It feels good there. So… he’ll love it if you focus your attention on it.

Ballin’. Going down on a guy isn’t just about wrapping your mouth around his c*ck. It’s about serving his entire package. Which includes his balls. So, if you’re neglecting his balls, then you are not successfully performing the job sufficiently. Sorry.

The other hole. Too many people overlook the other hole when they’re going down on someone, whether that someone is a woman or a man. What hole, you ask? Why, the butthole! There are plenty of nerves in that area that your partner will be more than happy that you didn’t leave it neglected.

Body moving. Giving head isn’t just about bobbing your head around. You need to get into it, and that’s what way too many people overlook. It’s an intimate moment, so it should be treated intimately. Putting your whole self into the act brings the experience to the level it ought to be at.

Clitoris. This probably isn’t the first time you’ve heard that you need to focus on her clitoris if you want her to get the most out of this session. So, focus on it. If you ignore it, or seem like you don’t know where it is, then you’re just forcing her to miss out on what could’ve been a wonderful time.

Listen. Even if your partner is necessarily talking, they can still communicate with you while you’re going down on them. So, listen. How, you ask? Their body movement says a lot, and so does their moaning. You just need to interpret it correctly.

Attention. It may not sound like such a big deal, but making your partner feel as though you’ve never had more fun than you are in that very moment is vital. Getting head, as good as it can feel, can be intimidating. People can feel exposed and even self-conscious. So remind them how much you love what you’re doing as often as possible and as creatively as you can.

Signs That Your Oral Sex Game Needs Serious Help

The general opinion about going down on a guy is that's simple enough. You open wide, you place the penis into your mouth and you bob your head up and down whilst applying a blend of suction and sucking. Voila. Head. But, truth be told, giving head is apparently something of a challenge for some people. These particular failures may not see it that way, but when you take a guy's opinion into consideration, you'll find that not everyone is quite as skilled at sucking d*ck as they may have believed.  Keep reading to discover the signs that your head game needs serious help.

Stop while you’re ahead. Listen. There’s nothing wrong with admitting failure. The first part in fixing a problem is acknowledging that there’s a problem in the first place. So if you want to improve your situation (in this case, your situation is referring to your blow job skills), you’ll need to accept the fact that you’re imperfect and take the advice that’s freely being handed to you.

Recognizing your flaws. Now, sucking on a penis is serious business. If you’re not skilled at, the League of Fellatio Recipients (LFR) will promptly ban you from any and all fellating-friendly scenarios. So, if you want this to not happen and are willing to embrace your flaws in order to fix them, let’s focus on the signs that you’ve got a problem.

Razormouth. When you blow a guy, the last thing you even want to consider bringing into the picture is your teeth. Yes, they’re lovely. Have you had them whitened lately? It shows. But just because they’re lovely and capable and regularly brushed doesn’t mean they ought to be incorporated into oral sex. The only thing they bring is pain.

Right here, right now. When you suck a D, you only suck the D. Your hands don’t do utilize the rest of his body (let alone his penis), you don’t switch it up at all, your tongue doesn’t gravitate anywhere other than his wiener… It’s all very dull and routine, and this is a horrible way to get on a penis’ good side.

Advice. OK, so obviously no one wants to be talked down to. However, if a guy is merely trying to tell you what he likes to make your job easier and to make him feel even better, why not listen? This isn’t isn’t mansplaining, it’s just a man explaining what he likes. When you don’t take this kind of advice, everyone loses.

Bored to death. When you blow a guy, you seem like it’s putting you to sleep. Instead of channeling your inner adult film star (everyone’s got one of those, right?), you channel yourself when you were asleep the night before. Not only does this make the oral less pleasant, it’s pretty much a turn-off and may result in SFP (Sudden Flaccid Penis).

We need to talk… If the guy you’re blowing mentions something after about how mediocre your BJ is, then sure, he’s a f*cking a**hole. But it still doesn’t change the fact that you’re a mediocre d*ck-sucker. No matter how pissed off or upset this makes you, you’ve still got a mess on your hands (and no, not that mess).

Ow. If at any point the guy whose penis you’re sucking says the word, “Ow,” you’re doing something wrong. Sure, mistakes happen and teeth accidentally work their way into BJs whether we want them to or not (for the record, we never want them to), but when it’s consistent, you need to reevaluate your sucking skills before it’s too late (but don’t actually worry, it’ll never be too late).