Don't Fake An Orgasm EVER Again.

It's time you knew the truth about how female orgasm REALLY works.

You know, it's not surprising that women think a vaginal orgasm is the only way to go. 

Sigmund Freud was the first to lie about female orgasms. He said that the clitoral orgasm was ‘infantile’ and the only 'grown up' orgasm for women was a vaginal climax. (How would he even know, having a penis?) Freud also said any woman who couldn’t have a vaginal orgasm must be 'frigid' (maybe that's because he never touched a woman’s clitoris). 

Freud obviously was not very “in touch” with female sexuality.  

The vaginal orgasm is an illusion!

Ninety-nine percent of women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm.

So, the reality is — if you think you're having an orgasm by pure vaginal intercourse, you're likely getting clitoral stimulation through your clitoral roots or "crus," which are the ‘legs’ of the clitoris inside of the vagina. (Or, more specifically: These roots reach down and under the surface around the opening of the vagina.)

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The crus engorges when you're turned on and, for some women, they're close to the surface that you feel extra stimulation during penetrative intercourse.

For some lucky women, if your clitoris is close to your vagina, then certain sex positions during intercourse will pull, tug, and put pressure on the clitoris to help with stimulation. Other women who have a clitoris that is anatomically further away from the vagina can stimulate the clit with a hand, a vibrator, or by rubbing against your partner or the bed during intercourse, leading to indirect clitoral stimulation to climax.

So, are you lying about your orgasm? 

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Experts say that 80 percent of women fake orgasm at some point during sex because most women are too nervous to tell their partner what they need to reach orgasm (or don’t even know themselves). 

Also interesting — In a new study at UCLA, men were asked how many minutes of direct clitoral stimulation they thought it took for women to reach orgasm. Most men said “about four minutes.” In reality it takes anywhere from seven to 25 minutes.

But it’s not entirely their fault. If women are faking it after about four minutes, men falsely believe they're doing a good job. Women need to explain to their male partner how to make climax happen or else they're leading guys on with bad information.

Don’t get me wrong — some women can orgasm through vaginal penetration. 

This is because the walls of the vagina close about a third of the way into the vaginal canal during intercourse. If the woman is already stimulated from clitoral orgasm or g-spot stimulation, that can lead to a mind blowing and expanded orgasm. Stimulating the g-spot area (which is an area about an inch or two in on the front side of the vagina) can be a wonderful way for a woman to climax. 

But, keep in mind the vagina is a complex system of nerve endings, with the clitoris being the greatest area of stimulation on the female body.

So, use your sexual creativity and increase your sexual confidence. Most importantly: Be honest with your partner about what brings you to orgasm. 

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Concentrate on your clitoral orgasm, through oral or manual sex. 

After you've climaxed, you may be able to reach a vaginal orgasm more easily. Either way, focus on your pleasure without worrying about how long you last, whether it works, or what kind of orgasm you experience.

Sex should be a pleasurable experience where you can enjoy the moment without stress or pressure. 

To be honest, stress-free PLEASURE is way more important than any orgasm will ever be.

How To Last Longer In Bed Tonight

Here's how to stay in control without numbing yourself out.

So you want to know how to last longer in bed tonight?

Well, get excited because these techniques will not only have you lasting as long as you want, they’ll also skyrocket your woman's arousal and make her come a lot faster!

Give your girl a mind-blowing session of multiple penetration orgasms during sex tonight ... while lasting longer! Use these 3 tricks:

1. Use the Dip, Dip, Dive Technique

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Think of your arousal on a scale of 1 to 10:

• 1: You’re not aroused at all and sex is the last thing on your mind.
• 2 to 5: You’re starting to get aroused but you’re not fully erect yet.
• 5 to 8: You’re aroused, hard and could keep on thrusting as long as you want.
• 9: You’re on the verge of orgasm but you can still keep it from happening if you stop thrusting immediately.
• 10: You’re seconds away from orgasm and not even an asteroid heading right at you would stop it.

Men ejaculate prematurely when they enter a woman at a 7 or 8 and immediately start thrusting. This pushes their arousal up to a 9 and then 10, and they orgasm quickly. Instead of this, use the dip, dip dive technique. This keeps your arousal at a 7 or 8 so you can keep going all day long ... or as long as she can take it.

The first time you enter the woman you're with, enter only the tip of your penis, then pull out. You can rub or slap your tip against her clit or run it up and down between the edges of her lips. Then do it again. Give her just the head and pull out. Do this at least 9 times.

On the 10th stroke, go all the way in. You’ll feel MASSIVE to her, and you’ll keep your arousal at a level you can handle because you’re getting used to the sensation of being inside her before you start thrusting at a faster pace.

Now give her 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep; then 7 and 3. Keep going until you give her 1 shallow and 9 deep thrusts. Now go back the other way.

She might beg you to stop teasing her; she might try pulling you into her deeper and faster. But, don’t give it to her. Keep dipping and diving to gain full control over your orgasm and the teasing will make her come a lot faster.

2. When in doubt, pull it out

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When you're about to come, you start feeling a familiar tension in your groin and you can feel your orgasm coming.

Some guys think they can handle "just a bit more," so they keep going at the same pace. Other guys go all in and start pounding away at full speed, hoping and praying she comes before he does. 

It’s a common mistake that almost always leads to premature ejaculation.

Here’s the deal: NOTHING is stopping you from pulling out and going down on her… or using your favorite finger technique… or teasing her with your tip like you did when you were dipping and diving.

But, the next time you have sex, try this: Pull out of her the second you feel your arousal start to increase. Even if you know you can handle a bit more stimulation, pull out until you feel your arousal cool down.

The key here is to do this EVERY time your arousal starts to rise.

After a while, you’ll notice that you can handle a lot more pleasure before your arousal rises. Your subconscious starts to know that you can "save yourself" any time you need to by just pulling out and giving her some foreplay.

In fact, you might find yourself using this technique more because of how turned on your girl gets when you pull out and tease her a bit.

3. Make her come first ... with foreplay

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The female orgasm is not as simple (or as easy to achieve) as it is for men. But, women do have one massive advantage when it comes to orgasms: once it happens, it can happen again, and again, and again.

The more a woman comes, the easier and faster the next ones come — and the more powerful! So penetrating her, give her multiple foreplay orgasms first — you’ll make her come a lot faster. 

Use your favorite oral technique to give her a clitoral orgasm. Once she comes, her clit will be too sensitive for another, so use your fingers to give her a g-spot orgasm. By that time, her clit will have "cooled down" and she’ll be ready for another (more intense) clitoral orgasm.

Give her that second oral orgasm and then go back to fingering her g-spot… but this time stop right before she comes. Pull your fingers out and finish the job with your Johnson.

If she doesn't orgasm before you feel your arousal rising, pull out and give her another foreplay orgasm while you cool back down again. You can do this as many times as it takes to guarantee that she has at least one penetration orgasm before you do.